Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.
I came across the above quote earlier this week and it resonated with me.
Personally, I’ve spent alot of time over the past couple of years “angry” at one thing or another. In truth, most days there is likely something that winds me up.
The reason why the quote resonated with me so well is that I realised it’s my go to method of dealing with the Anger and using it when it’s needed. I learned alot from dealing with the unfairness of our miscarriages that undirected or unresolved anger is a powerfully destructive force. What can you be mad at from a miscarraige? The doctor? The situtation? Your spouse?
None of those are correct but generally you end up directing it at those closest to you.
Don’t get me wrong, there are days when sometimes the fascade will slip and my annoyance is there for all to see. It might not even be aimed at you but it’s there to see.
I’m blathering a bit but let’s try and cap off what I’m trying to say here. It’s ok to be Angry about things.
Angry about Brexit? Great, go do something productive to push whatever side of the cause you are on. Don’t go shouting into the void.
Angry about something someone has done? Find out why, otherwise fuck em and concentrate on yourself.
The right amount of anger is great for getting shit done but it has to be processed, it has to be directed. Don’t be angry and stuff you cannot change, be angry at the stuff you haven’t changed but can.
As Bill and Ted say, Be Excellent to each other